Wednesday, January 30, 2013

KNOW YOURSELF IN AN INTERVIEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!



By Kagashe Denis- TEKU/BEDCP/101507


5 Questions You Should Never Ask in a Job Interview

Here are 5 questions that can make a bad impression on your interviewer, scuttling your chances for getting the job. 

1. "When will I be promoted?:This is one of the most common questions that applicants come up with, and it should be avoided. Instead of asking when the promotion will occur, "a better approach is to ask what you would need to do to get a promotion".

2. "What's the salary for this position?" 
the first interview is more about selling yourself to the interviewer, and that questions about salary and benefits should really wait until a later interview. 

3. "When can I expect a raise?"
Talking about compensation can be difficult, but asking about raises is not the way to go about it.It makes more sense to ask about the process to follow or what can be done to work up to higher compensation level. Talking about "expecting" a raise,"shows a person is out of touch with reality."

4. "What sort of flextime options do you have?" 
This kind of question can make it sound like you're interested in getting out of the office as much as possible.

5. Any question that shows you haven't been listening. 
You are  Interviewed  for a position that is 60 miles fromyour home. "At the end of the interview, you  ask if you would be able to work from home," 

With the economy the way it is, employers are much more choosy and picky. Knowing the questions to avoid in an interview can help you stand out -- in a good way.




 

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Being alone does not mean you should be unhappy. Being alone is a psychological problem caused by lacking people of your characteristics. So worry not when you are alone. 

Dear fellow counselors, Hopefully you are doing good in the name of ALL MIGHTY GOD. From the quotation of " THINK ABOUT OTHERS AND THINK ABOUT 2MORROW", I take the opportunity to remind you that think of "WHERE WILL YOU BE THIS TIME NEXT YEAR-2014" ( Dr...............)

by Kagashe Denis

CAREER CHOICE

According to http://www.career-resource.net/theory.php :
According to John Holland's (1985) theory, there are 6 types of vocational personality which could make individuals better predisposed to certain occupations. Holland's fundamental underlying hypothesis is that people will have the most job satisfaction in occupations that match their personality type and so tend to choose a career that is reflective of their of their personality. Quoting John Holland himself, "people can function and develop best and find job satisfaction in work environments that are compatible with their personalities" (ICDM, 1991, p. 4-4).

These are the six personality types in brief. While each type is normally a part of us, usually one type is evidenced most strongly


  • REALISTIC: outdoor type. These people tend to like and be good at activities that require strength and co-ordination. They are not too keen on socializing. They also like working with things (tools, machines etc). Examples of suitable jobs: Farmer, Truck driver, Pilot, Builder, Carpenter, etc

  • INVESTIGATIVE: interested in logic and concepts. These people tend to enjoy and be good at abstract thought. They are often interested in science. They also like working with information (abstract ideas and theories) Examples of suitable jobs: Chemist, Mathematician, Pharmacist, Dentist, Researcher, etc

  • ARTISTIC: tend to you their imagination a lot. They like to express their feelings and ideas. Dislike rules and regulations and enjoy music, drama and art. They also like creating things. Examples of suitable jobs: Artist, Actor, Dancer, Designer, DJ, Composer, Painter etc

  • SOCIAL: enjoy the company of other people especially to help them. Tend to be warm and caring people. Example of suitable jobs: Nurse, Librarian, Counselor, Physiotherapist etc

  • ENTERPRISING: also enjoy the company of other people, but mainly to dominate or persuade rather then help them. Enjoys actions more than thought. They also like to be the leaders. Examples of suitable jobs: Sales Rep, Headmaster, Lawyer, Managers, Journalist etc

  • CONVENTIONAL: likes rules and regulations, structure and order. These people tend to be well organized with little or no imagination. Examples of suitable jobs: Secretary, Typist, Clerk, Factory worker etc
  • POSTED BY MWINAMI ANGELA .N.

cognitive theory

 

by lusaulwa osmund

Jean Piaget

by email icon published, updated 2012    

Jean Piaget (1896 - 1980) was employed at the Binet Institute in the 1920s, where his job was to develop French versions of questions on English intelligence tests. 
He became intrigued with the reasons children gave for their wrong answers on the questions that required logical thinking. He believed that these incorrect answers revealed important differences between the thinking of adults and children.
Piaget was the first psychologist to make a systematic study of cognitive development.  His contributions include a theory of cognitive child development, detailed observational studies of cognition in children, and a series of simple but ingenious tests to reveal different cognitive abilities.

Before Piaget’s work, the common assumption in psychology was that children are merely less competent thinkers than adults.  Piaget showed that young children think in strikingly different ways compared to adults.  According to Piaget, children are born with a very basic mental structure (genetically inherited and evolved) on which all subsequent learning and knowledge is based.

Monday, January 28, 2013

The following are the types of early childhood education
1.Daycare
2.Nursery
3.Kindergarten

Principles of MONTESSORI in ECE
1.Respect for the child
2.Absorbent mind
3.Sensitive period
4.The prepared environment
5.Autoeducation

POSTED BY JOHN ELINA; TEKU/ BEDCP/ 101496
HABARI ZA ASUBUHI WANASIHI WENZANGU?
NAWATAKIA MASOMO MEMA

BY;JOHN ELINA;

Tips for a Healthy Marriage

 
 
Posted by Mahundi Anthony,JB.
 
Building and maintaining a healthy marriage is not that easy. It needs a lot of effort and sufficient time together. Both partners should equally take efforts to make their marital relationship enjoyable and comfortable. Given below are some helpful tips that may prove helpful for a pursuing successful married life.

For God's Sake, Communicate!
Communication is the most important key to a healthy relationship. Effective communication helps develop a strong bond between a couple by eliminating the possibility of misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations. You should be able to express your feelings and share all your joys, worries, and concerns with your partner in a direct yet appropriate manner so as not to hurt the other's feelings and sensibilities. You see, the naked truth can be bitter at times but it still needs to be conveyed in order to have a clear perspective of the situation. A clear perspective is quintessential to taking the right decision regarding important matters regarding life, finances, relationships, and family equations. However, communication is not restricted to talking only. You should also be able to carefully listen to your partner. For being able to communicate effectively, you need to keep aside enough time for each other from your busy schedule. You must spend some time with each other for meaningful conversations. Try to have at least one meal together everyday.

The Name's Bond...
You both should make efforts towards bonding on a daily basis, in order to strengthen your relationship. You should objectively review past moments and find out your mistakes and problem areas in your relationship in case the personal equation between you two seems to be undergoing emotional strain. By this, you can decide the areas to be worked upon and improved. You can also seek help from a professional marriage counselor.

Leave Depreciation to the Accountant
Another important thing for a healthy marriage is to express your appreciation for your partner and the little ways in which he/she takes care of your needs or makes you feel special . Saying 'Thank you' can make your partner feel special and appreciated. You should never miss an opportunity to appreciate your partner even for everyday things such as cooking, cleaning, keeping your things in order, or taking care of the kids. It would make your partner happy and he/she would always look forward to doing things that make you happy. When appreciation and the willingness to please is mutual, such a marriage is bound to set an example for every relative and acquaintance of the couple.

Together Forever = f(Commitment+Fidelity)
Commitment is of utmost importance if a relationship is to be healthy and if a marriage is to be successful. Your relationship with your partner should occupy the highest priority in your life. A relationship needs attention and efforts to flourish and strengthen. No matter how busy you are with your career or academics, make sure to spend some quality time with your spouse. Always be honest with each other. It is the most important thing for a successful marriage. Infidelity of one or both partners can ruin a marital relationship. If you commit a mistake, admit it to your partner. By being honest with each other, you can build a strong relationship. Trust forms the very foundation of any marriage. It not only gives a solid base to the relationship, but also helps it grow and spread warmth into both of your lives.

From "You and Me" to "Us"
A marriage consists of two individuals as well as a team of two. Adjustment and understanding are two very essential ingredients for any relationship to work and are especially important for a healthy marriage. Always keep in mind, your partner may be brought up in a household that belonged to a different culture or may have had a set of values very different from those of your family. Hence, you should be ready to accept his/her views and opinions and respect the differences instead of resenting them. Look at it as an opportunity to learn different ways of thought and a different philosophy of life. Even if you disagree on any issue, you should discuss your differences calmly in order to understand each other's point of view on the matter. This will only help you to reach a mutually acceptable and sound decision that neither of you can blame each other for, in case the outcome is not what you expected.

Try to find ways to meet each other halfway in your efforts to keep your relationship wholesome and respectful. If your partner happens to commit any personal or social faux pas, don't panic and don't hurt him/her by using harsh words or offensive action. Rein in that outburst and try to understand why he/she did what he/she did. Also, find out if the said trespass was intentional or merely an accident. In the latter case, especially, forgive your partner and, instead, discuss with him/her how such a sticky situation may be avoided in the future.

Romance is a Dish Most Unsuitable for Cooking on the Back Burner
A marriage is a long-term project. The lucky ones are in it for life! While getting comfortable with your spouse's permanent presence in your life sounds good, it can also make you take him/her for granted and rob your relationship of freshness and spice. Stay in touch with your sense of humor. Have fun with your partner and laugh often. It helps relieve stress and helps you get through a difficult time together, all the time fortifying your emotional bond. Most marriages are romantic in the beginning. However, as time passes, the lighthearted romance in the life of a couple gets weighed down by career, chores, and kids. You can keep the romance alive and make each other feel special by indulging in pampering activities like bringing flowers home or getting surprise gifts for your significant other just for the heck of it! Keep aside a day every month for a date and activities only you two would participate in, say, watching a movie together, going on a picnic, trekking the countryside, taking a walk along the beach on a moonlit night, or simply lazing around in the house!

By adopting these useful tips, you can make your marriage a healthy and successful affair for the rest of your lives. While it is true that the divorce rates are going higher with each passing year, it is also true that there are marriages today that still work and almost everyone knows at least one married couple who have stayed married for more than thirty years! That just goes to show that while the stress of today's fast paced, ambition-fueled life is a deal breaker for matrimonial harmony, some still manage to survive the rapids of relationships and pass the test of long term commitment with flying colors.
By Reshma Jirage

FORGIVENESS.

MASELEKA HILDA TEKU/BEDCP/101555.
Root of bitterness can grow in you because of unforgiven. This root can be buried deep inside your heart which can block a flow of Gods love from penetrating within your heart. Unforgiven is an open door which allow Satan to enter into your life. Jesus teaches us to forgive one another, to love our enemies and pray for those who offended us. According to holly bible Mathew 5:44 which says but i tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
Forgiving without forgetting means unforgiven and this can be a major cause of DEPRESSION, Headache and unhappy life. FORGIVENESS is an instruction of which every person is obligated to do, so that you can also be forgiven.
(Be compassionate to one another, forgiving each other,just like Christ God for gave you) Ephesians 4:32


The RESPECTIFUL counselling framework defines the cultural diversity as follows
1.R_Religion or spiritual identity
2.E_Economic class background
3.S_Sexual identity
4.P_Psychological maturity.
5. E_Ethnic or racial background
6.C_Chronological or developmental challenges
7.T-Trauma
8.F_Family background or historical events
9.U_Unique physical characteristics
10.L_Location

POSTED BY NJAVIKE NEEMA TEKU/BEDCP/101616


                                                                                                                                          by john keneth
Intelligence quotient

"IQ" redirects here. For the Inuit traditional knowledge commonly abbreviated as "IQ", see Inuit Qaujimajatuqangit. For the British progressive rock band, see IQ (band).

An intelligence quotient, or IQ, is a score derived from one of several standardized tests designed to assess intelligence. The abbreviation "IQ" comes from the German term Intelligenz-Quotient, originally coined by psychologist William Stern. When modern IQ tests are devised, the mean (average) score within an age group is set to 100 and the standard deviation (SD) almost always to 15, although this was not always so historically.[1] Thus, the intention is that approximately 95% of the population scores within two SDs of the mean, i.e. has an IQ between 70 and 130.

IQ scores have been shown to be associated with such factors as morbidity and mortality,[2] parental social status,[3] and, to a substantial degree, biological parental IQ. While the heritability of IQ has been investigated for nearly a century, there is still debate about the significance of heritability estimates[4][5] and the mechanisms of inheritance.[6]

IQ scores are used as predictors of educational achievement, special needs, job performance and income. They are also used to study IQ distributions in populations and the correlations between IQ and other variables. The average IQ scores for many populations have been rising at an average rate of three points per decade since the early 20th century, a phenomenon called the Flynn effect. It is disputed whether these changes in scores reflect real changes in intellectual abilities
THE FOLLOWING ARE THE COUNSELLING  THIORIES
1.Psychoanalytic theory
2.Exstentialism theory
3Client centered theory.
4.Rational emotive behavioral theory


THE COUNSELLING APPROACHES ARE
1.Counselor centered approach
2.Client centered approach
3.Eclectic approach

POSTED BY ;PONELA AUDA /TEKU /BEDCP /101628



                                                                                                           by: juma zena

Triangular theory of love

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Not to be confused with Love triangle.
The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist, Robert Sternberg. In the context of interpersonal relationships, "the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component."[1]
  1. Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.
  2. Passion – Which encompasses drives connected to both limerence and sexual attraction.
  3. Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other.
"The amount of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components, and the type of love one experiences depends on their strengths relative to each other."[2] Different stages and types of love can be explained as different combinations of these three elements; for example, the relative emphasis of each component changes over time as an adult romantic relationship develops. A relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive than one based on two or three elements.












forgeting and remembering



 by: nyambaya ferdnand

Why We Forget

Did you know that about 60% of the material that you read is lost in the first hour after reading?
The primary reason we forget is:
Interference or "The Confusion Factor": e.g. mental overcrowding, multi-tasking. The more similar the event or fact that intervenes, the more likely you will forget.
Other reasons we forget are:
  • Negative attitude or self concept e.g. "I have a lousy memory"
  • Underlearning: not learned well enough and is easily forgotten
  • Disuse: materials is most rapidly lost after initial learning (see statistic above)
  • Changed cues: the right cue is missing e.g. you studied one way but the test question is presented in another way
  • Lack of attention/ effort/ concentration

How We Remember

We remember by: Thinking → Encoding → Rehearsing → Retrieving
We remember in pictures.
Memory is helped by:
  • Organization and order
  • Funnel approach: moving from general to specific
  • Associations/ connections with prior knowledge
  • Personal meaning - emotions
  • Grouping or chunking
Long term memory is helped by
  • Repeating
  • Reciting
  • Rehearsing : reciting or repeating but in the actual place you need to remember the information
  • Elaborating (deep processing)
  • Connecting
  • Teaching someone

Community Responses on HIV/AIDS and Poverty


                                                                                                     
At village and hamlet level, community initiated strategies and programmes are also present.
Although some villages have not abided, NMSF requires HIV/AIDS to be mainstreamed in community plans. Each hamlet is supposed to form the HIV/AIDS Control Committee of 3 to 4 members chaired by the hamlet chairman. Apart form HIV/AIDS Control Committee, the
villages (and therefore wards) are also required to form Disaster Management Committees (Food and HIV/AIDS). The major role of these committees is to facilitate and provide support to the activities meant to fight HIV/AIDS pandemic and hunger in the area. The grass root committees are extremely useful to NGOs and CBOs because they have been responsible for logistical support, which also provides good access to the target groups.


Majority of the respondents were either not sure
whether such arrangements existed or were not involved at all.


In discussing with Catherine about how she copes with her illness and her plans concerning her children’s education following her husband’s death, She says.



“My husband was a business man and because he had money my deceased sister’s children were 
studying in international school. The fee there is 600,000 shillings for each child. My sister died 
in1998 and we were married to the same husband. Now my husband is dead also and he died with his 
business! When he was alive I did not take part in his plans because he did not want me to get 


involved at all. I have just been a housewife since I married him in 1997. 





We had two children, and 
now that he is dead all seven children depend on me.










But I am already weak with this illness. I have been sick since 2001, but I did not know that I had 
AIDS until after my husband died. I wanted to go and test but my husband would not allow it. He told 
me that if I decide to test for HIV/AIDS without his permission I should also consider packing and 
leaving because he would not consider me his wife again. I was appalled by his reaction but there was 
nothing I could do so I did not test for HIV/AIDS until after he died three months ago.









I don’t have a job or a business that could give me money to keep the children in international school. 
So they will not go to international school next year. But even if they get admission in public school I 
know I will not be able to support them for long because with this illness I know I won’t live for long.



I know that these children will suffer a lot when I die, but there is nothing I can do about that. My 
father in law has been the only person we can depend on. He has been assisting us sometime, 
bringing us food or money, but he is very old and after all he has his own family to look 
after”(Catherine is a widow and mother of 7 at Ludewa village)




                                                                      posted by Kagashe Denis



 
msigwa kaiza

Qualities of an Effective Counselor

Multicultural Competency

  • Demonstrates the ability to adapt counseling approaches, theories, and techniques to make them culturally appropriate for diverse populations. 
  • A knowledge and awareness of the importance of individual differences in race, culture, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, and disability, and the ability to work effectively with a broad range of individuals from diverse backgrounds. 
  • Possess an awareness of a) their own cultural world views/values, and b) any biases held toward other racial and ethnic minority groups.
  • A knowledge of sociopolitical influences on race, ethnicity, gender, and sexual orientation, including issues of immigration, poverty, racism, stereotyping, and powerlessness.

Scientist-Practitioner Model

  • Knows evidence-based practices and basic strategies for evaluating the counseling process and outcome in counseling. 
  • A knowledge and understanding of methods of research and investigation for the purpose of keeping abreast of current developments in the field to insure the effectiveness of workplace programs and counseling outcome. 

Ethical Practice

  • Demonstrates the ability to apply and adhere to ethical and legal standards in counseling. 
  • A knowledge and understanding of one’s self and his or her impact upon the counseling process in order to deliver ethical and effective services (i.e., the American Counseling Association, the American School Counselors Association), and by current legal precedent. 
  • Demonstrates the ability to recognize one’s own limitations as a counselor and to seek supervision or refer clients when appropriate. 

Systemic Perspective of Development

  • Recognizes the importance of family, social networks, and community systems in the treatment of mental and/or emotional disorders. 
  • Demonstrates appropriate application of culturally responsive treatments such as, individual, couple, family, and group in schools and community agencies for initiating, maintaining, and terminating counseling. 
  • Recognizes the importance of the role of the counselor as an agent of social change and possesses skills to implement change. 
  • Demonstrates an awareness of systemic inequalities. 

Professional Competency

  • Demonstrates a high level of interpersonal skills such as the ability to respectfully communicate opinions with colleagues. 
  • Demonstrates the ability to receive and apply feedback from supervisors and colleagues. 
  • Demonstrates ability to provide appropriate feedback to others.

Counseling Competency

  • Demonstrates effective delivery and use of counseling skills. 
  • Demonstrates a cognitively complex understanding of client problems and the counseling process.
  • Demonstrates competent treatment delivery.
  • Demonstrates the ability to establish working therapeutic relationships
  • Demonstrates and applies knowledge of counseling theories and approaches.

TIPS IN RUNNING AN ORGANIZATION COUNSELING







                                        by NJAVIKE NEEMA
1. Deal with dignity: The current job losses have more to do with corporate greed and a system failure. An individual is more a victim of circumstances. This should be communicated clearly to assuage feelings of the individual.
2. Give time: Give indications of an impending job loss as early as possible and avoid shock impact. This gives the employee time to think of alternatives in a job loss situation. Importantly, the employee might try and improve productivity.
3. Build courage and confidence: Highlight strengths of the individual and build personal confidence level. Irrespective of personal circumstances, retaining confidence and mental balance, is critical.
4. Offer help: Offer personal and corporate help. More important than offering help is to listen patiently and offer whatever help is possible.
5. Involve family, where possible: A job loss affects the family and hence, where the employee is receptive, involve the family in counselling.
6. Assure reemployment on priority: An economic recovery would follow the recession and employment opportunities would come up, in due course. It would be a good gesture, to offer reemployment, at the earliest opportunity.
7. Give positive references: Give good and positive references to employees terminated to improve their chances of sourcing an alternate employment.
8. Allow use of facilities: As far as possible, allow a usage of corporate facilities, especially where there is no direct cash outflow. Typical facilities would include transport, sports, club, library, canteen etc.
9. Offer subsidy: In large companies, employees are eligible for a variety of benefits including transport, housing and furniture. Where possible, continue to offer these facilities at a subsidised price, for a short period of three to six months or offer to sell assets at a depreciated price.
10. Communicate: Most importantly, involve the employee and listen empathetically. Keep in touch with the employee at some frequency to sustain courage to face the crisis and instill a ray of hope to come out of the crisis successfully.

COMMUNITY COUNSELING MODAL.

    MARWA YUSUPH TEKU/BEDCP/101554. Community counseling modal is comprised of four components as stipulated below;
  • Direct community service.
  • Indirect community service.
  • Direct client service.
  • Indirect client service.
Direct community service, is the type of service which focuses much on prevention of the problem before affecting the large population.
Indirect community service, refers to the services that influence the public policy.
Direct client service, is the counseling outreach to vulnerable clients.
Indirect client service, refers the client advocacy and consultation.

Posted by Makoa Juliana

Bedcp/101547

 

Following are five of the most common parenting styles that today's moms and dads are applying to their families.

Instinctive parenting

 
This might be called the "old school" method of parenting, "intuition" or simply a feeling of "go with your gut." Frost describes instinctive parenting as "very much your own personal style of parenting, usually influenced by your own upbringing." In other words, as an instinctive parent you're more likely to teach what you know and parent the way you were parented, whether you were brought up by your mother and father, siblings or another caregiver.

Attachment parenting

In attachment parenting, the goal is for parent and child to form a strong emotional bond. The people who adopt this parenting style strive to promptly respond to their child's needs and be sensitive and emotionally available for their child at all times. The belief is that strong attachment to the parent helps the child become a more secure, empathic, peaceful human being. Fans of attachment parenting often believe in natural childbirth, a family bed, avoidance of corporal punishment, homeschooling and may be part of the anti-vaccination movement.

Helicopter parenting

"Helicopter parents constantly interact with and often interfere with their children's lives. They hover like a helicopter," explains Frost. While this kind of parenting is fairly normal to ensure the safety and security of babies and very young children, be forewarned -- smothering your child in every aspect of their life can ultimately backfire. "Too much of this style of parenting and children can become dependent on their parents' money, time and advice past their college years and into their professional careers," says Frost.

Authoritative parenting

"You live under my roof, you follow my rules!" It's a cliché, but one that parents may often find themselves speaking -- and it probably most closely mimics the authoritative parenting style. The parents who fit into this category typically establish rules and guidelines and expect their children to follow them, but the methodology is a bit more democratic than "what I say goes." For children who fail to meet the authoritative parent's expectations, the parent is more nurturing, forgiving and responsive. Their idea of discipline is to be assertive but not restrictive, to support rather than punish.

Permissive parenting

It's a child's world for permissive parents, sometimes referred to as nontraditional, indulgent parents. "They have very few demands to make of their children and rarely discipline them because they have relatively low expectations of maturity and self-control," says Frost.
If at any point the word "lenient" comes back into play, it's for this type of parent. The permissive parenting style is often evidenced by individuals who try to be more friend than parent, avoid confrontation and are generally nurturing and communicative.

 

Posted by Mahundi Hirary

Bedcp/101545

What is Psychosocial Development?

Erik Erikson's theory of psychosocial development is one of the best-known theories of personality in psychology. Much like Sigmund Freud, Erikson believed that personality develops in a series of stages. Unlike Freud's theory of psychosexual stages, Erikson's theory describes the impact of social experience across the whole lifespan.
One of the main elements of Erikson's psychosocial stage theory is the development of ego identity.1 Ego identity is the conscious sense of self that we develop through social interaction. According to Erikson, our ego identity is constantly changing due to new experiences and information we acquire in our daily interactions with others. In addition to ego identity, Erikson also believed that a sense of competence motivates behaviors and actions. Each stage in Erikson's theory is concerned with becoming competent in an area of life. If the stage is handled well, the person will feel a sense of mastery, which is sometimes referred to as ego strength or ego quality.2 If the stage is managed poorly, the person will emerge with a sense of inadequacy.
In each stage, Erikson believed people experience a conflict that serves as a turning point in development. In Erikson's view, these conflicts are centered on either developing a psychological quality or failing to develop that quality. During these times, the potential for personal growth is high, but so is the potential for failure.

Psychosocial Stage 1 - Trust vs. Mistrust

  • The first stage of Erikson's theory of psychosocial development occurs between birth and one year of age and is the most fundamental stage in life.2

  • Because an infant is utterly dependent, the development of trust is based on the dependability and quality of the child's caregivers.

  • If a child successfully develops trust, he or she will feel safe and secure in the world. Caregivers who are inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or rejecting contribute to feelings of mistrust in the children they care for. Failure to develop trust will result in fear and a belief that the world is inconsistent and unpredictable.

Psychosocial Stage 2 - Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt

  • The second stage of Erikson's theory of psychosocial development takes place during early childhood and is focused on children developing a greater sense of personal control.2

  • Like Freud, Erikson believed that toilet training was a vital part of this process. However, Erikson's reasoning was quite different then that of Freud's. Erikson believe that learning to control one's bodily functions leads to a feeling of control and a sense of independence.

  • Other important events include gaining more control over food choices, toy preferences, and clothing selection.

  • Children who successfully complete this stage feel secure and confident, while those who do not are left with a sense of inadequacy and self-doubt.

    Psychosocial Stage 3 - Initiative vs. Guilt

    • During the preschool years, children begin to assert their power and control over the world through directing play and other social interactions.

    • Children who are successful at this stage feel capable and able to lead others. Those who fail to acquire these skills are left with a sense of guilt, self-doubt, and lack of initiative.3

    Psychosocial Stage 4 - Industry vs. Inferiority

    • This stage covers the early school years from approximately age 5 to 11.

    • Through social interactions, children begin to develop a sense of pride in their accomplishments and abilities.

    • Children who are encouraged and commended by parents and teachers develop a feeling of competence and belief in their skills. Those who receive little or no encouragement from parents, teachers, or peers will doubt their abilities to be successful.

    Psychosocial Stage 5 - Identity vs. Confusion

    • During adolescence, children explore their independence and develop a sense of self.

    • Those who receive proper encouragement and reinforcement through personal exploration will emerge from this stage with a strong sense of self and a feeling of independence and control. Those who remain unsure of their beliefs and desires will feel insecure and confused about themselves and the future.

Psychosocial Stage 6 - Intimacy vs. Isolation

  • This stage covers the period of early adulthood when people are exploring personal relationships.

  • Erikson believed it was vital that people develop close, committed relationships with other people. Those who are successful at this step will form relationships that are committed and secure.

  • Remember that each step builds on skills learned in previous steps. Erikson believed that a strong sense of personal identity was important for developing intimate relationships. Studies have demonstrated that those with a poor sense of self tend to have less committed relationships and are more likely to suffer emotional isolation, loneliness, and depression.

Psychosocial Stage 7 - Generativity vs. Stagnation

  • During adulthood, we continue to build our lives, focusing on our career and family.

  • Those who are successful during this phase will feel that they are contributing to the world by being active in their home and community. Those who fail to attain this skill will feel unproductive and uninvolved in the world.

Psychosocial Stage 8 - Integrity vs. Despair

  • This phase occurs during old age and is focused on reflecting back on life.

  • Those who are unsuccessful during this stage will feel that their life has been wasted and will experience many regrets. The individual will be left with feelings of bitterness and despair.

  • Those who feel proud of their accomplishments will feel a sense of integrity. Successfully completing this phase means looking back with few regrets and a general feeling of satisfaction. These individuals will attain wisdom, even when confronting death

DIVORCE AND NURSERY SCHOOL CHILDREN; PARENTS ROLE TO IMPROVE THEIR FORMAL EDUCATION DEVELOPMENT

CAUSES OF SEXUAL DYSFUCTION

By Malingula John, S.  Teku/bedcp/101550


Causes of Sexual Dysfunctions

Lauren Welsh

"Sexual dysfunctions are an important public health concern, to which general health and emotional problems contribute" (10). What is a sexual dysfunction? A sexual dysfunction is any condition that inhibits someone's ability to enjoy sex. Some common sexual dysfunctions are: hypoactive desire disorder (low sex drive), hyperactive sexual disorder (high sex drive), sexual aversion disorder, lack of lubrication (females), impotence (male erectile disorder), premature ejaculation, vaginismus (prolonged contractions of the vaginal wall that cause painful intercourse), or failure to orgasm during sex (8). In a study of happily married couples, 14% of men and 15% of women reported that they were either not very satisfied or not at all satisfied with their sex lives. In another study by Laumann in 1992, it was found that the prevalence of sexual dysfunction is 43% in women and 31% in men (10). Are these numbers surprising? What is causing this lack of sexual fulfillment?
Did you ever wonder why sexual desire varies from person to person? Or why and how your sexual drive can change over time? Did you ever wonder what causes things to go wrong sexually - sexual dysfunctions? What is controlling YOUR sexual desire?
Innervations of the organs of sexuality are mediated primarily through the autonomic nervous system (12). The autonomic nervous system is the part of the vertebrate nervous system that regulates involuntary action, as of the intestines, heart, and glands, and that is divided into the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system (1). It is generally assumed that the parasympathetic system activates the process of erection via impulses that pass through the pelvic splanchnic nerves (S2, S3, S4), which cause the smooth muscles of the penile arteries to dilate. The sympathetic (adrenergic/adrenalin) system is responsible for ejaculation. Similarly for women, the sympathic system facilitates smooth muscle contraction of the vagina, urethra, and uterus that occurs during orgasm.
"The autonomic nervous system functions outside of voluntary control and is influenced by external events (for example, stress, drugs) and internal events (hypothalamic, limbic, and cortical stimuli)" (12). So, it is not surprising, therefore, that erection and orgasm are so vulnerable to dysfunction.
There are many possible psychological disorders that could cause a person to be sexually unsatisfied. If a person has a psychological disorder such as bi-polar disorder, schizophrenia, epilepsy, or depression - they tend to enter states of extreme fear, paranoia, or anxiety more often than a person without their disorder. These states are not normal states of consciousness for a healthy person, and many of these abnormal states of consciousness inhibit sexual interest (9). For example, a bi-polar person experiences non-normal states of extreme bliss or extreme depression. During each non-normal state of consciousness, the bi-polar person will be too consumed by either their elation or their depression to feel any sexual desire. Therefore, a person's sexual desire is related to the amount of time spent in non-normal states of consciousness.
Not only the psychological disorder itself can cause abnormalities in sexual desire, but so can the treatment of the disease. Drugs used to treat some psychological disorders - such as depression - can alter sexual desires by disturbing the normal processes in the brain that deal with desire and sexual arousal. Certain chemical agents such as antihypertensive, anticonvulsant, serotoninergic antidepressant and neuroleptic drugs may cause a loss of libido - sex drive (12). These drugs alter the production and uptake of certain chemicals called neurotransmitters in the brain that have been found to alter sexual desire/performance. Some of these neurotransmitters are: dopamine, epinephrine, norepinephrine, and serotonin. All have effects on sexual function. For example, an increase in dopamine is presumed to increase libido. Serotonin produced in the upper pons and mid-brain is presumed to have an inhibitory effect on sexual function (12).
There are other medical conditions in addition to psychological disorders that can be the cause sexual problems. In the U.S. there are two million men who are "impotent because they suffer from diabetes mellitus; an additional 300,000 are impotent because of other endocrine diseases; 1.5 million are impotent as a result of vascular disease; 180,000 because of multiple sclerosis; 400,000 because of traumas and fractures leading to pelvic fractures or spinal cord injuries; and another 650,000 as a result of radical surgery, including prostatectomies, colostomies, and cystectomies" (12). Some of the injuries are of the abdomen, lower spinal cord, or pelvic vascular areas, which can compromise circulation to the genitalia or sensory nerves to/from the genitalia - producing impotence or other changes in normal sexual responses.
In addition to psychological disorders, drugs, and varying medical conditions being the cause of sexual dysfunction, injury and/or brain surgery can also cause a range of affects on a person's libido (4). Examining the outcome of damage to certain, specific areas of the brain can help us understand the roles that those parts of the brain play in sexual drive/performance.
There are 4000 serious head injuries that occur each year in the U.S., of which about 100 are survivors. The disturbance of sexual functioning in these head injury survivors is the rule rather than the exception (4). Sexual drive, having to do with structures deep in the brain, are rarely disturbed by non-penetrating head injury. It is sexual motivation and initiation that are damaged by blunt frontal lobe trauma.
Experimentation with animals has demonstrated that the limbic system is directly involved with elements of sexual functioning. In all mammals the limbic system is involved in behavior required for self-preservation and the preservation of the species (12). The limbic system is the "link between higher cortical activity and the lower systems that control behavior" (3). It controls the neuroendocrine system, autonomic system, olfactory sensory processing, emotions and motivation, and memory. The limbic system is interconnected nuclei of the olfactory bulb and orbitofrontal cortex, amygdala, hippocampal formation, hypothalamus, anterior and mediodorsal nuclei of thalamus, septal nuclei, and the Limbic ring of neocortex (7).


Kluver and Bucy proved that the limbic system is involved with sexual functioning in their experiment with monkeys. The monkeys in their experiment were aggressive and raging prior to the operation. The operation consisted of the removal of the monkey's temporal lobe. After the operation the monkeys were docile, orally fixated, and had increased compulsive and sexual behaviors (2). Their findings led to the so-called Kluver-Bucy Syndrome. Humans can get Kuver-Bucy Syndrome when their temporal lobes get damaged from such things as tumors or surgery. Humans with this disorder also experience a disturbance in sexual function just as the monkeys did (3).
Temporal lobe epilepsy is another way in which the temporal lobe might function inadequately and cause sexual dysfunction. There is a high frequency of sexual disturbance in patients with temporal lobe epilepsy. Gastaut and Collomb (1954) were the first to draw attention to hyposexuality after specific inquiry in 36 patients with temporal lobe epilepsy. More than two-thirds showed marked diminution or absence of interest, appetite or sexual activity. Other forms of focal and generalized epilepsy appeared to be unassociated with such problems. Frequently, there was "a remarkable lack of sexual curiosity, fantasies or erotic dreams, yet little to suggest inhibition since the patients talked easily and without reserve about such matters" (12).
The amygdala has a large number of sexual phenomena associated with it. One of the more interesting is the observation that gay men have more connections between the amygdala on each side of the brain than straight men (9). The amygdala manages our emotions and helps to manage our states of consciousness (9). These normal and non-normal states of consciousness have a lot to do with sexual dysfunction (e.g. hyposexuality) as was discussed previously with psychological disorders.
Physiological disorders, medications, certain medical conditions, injury and/or brain surgery are only some of the causes of sexual dysfunction. Examining the neurological causes of sexual dysfunction will allow us to better understand the workings in our brain that have to do with sexual desire - and with this knowledge and better understanding we can hopefully help the many people in our society that suffer from sexual dysfunctions.